Deciding what to do

For some, what decision to make about an unplanned pregnancy is clear, for others it can be difficult and confusing.

When deciding what to do about an unplanned pregnancy, it is important to remember that you are the best person to make this decision. You, more than anyone else know what is important to you and what is best for you at this point in your life.

What is influencing your decision?

There are many different things that influence any decision we make in life. Use the picture below to help you think about what may influence your decision.

Activity: Write down some of the things which may influence your decision about your unplanned pregnancy.

Some tips to help you decide

• Think about how you are feeling and write these down; this can help if you’re feeling confused. The Children by Choice website includes a number of questions to help explore your feelings.
• Get advice from people you trust. This could be a friend, someone from your community, your local doctor (GP) or other health professionals like a counsellor.
• Get information about your options. Your GP or the websites listed below are a place to start.
• If you need more information, write a list of questions and ask your GP or a counsellor for advice.
• Think about your life now and how each of your options could change it.
• Talk through your feelings with people that can listen to you without judging you.
• Talk to someone who has had an unplanned pregnancy. Knowing more about their experience may help you.
• Make sure to look after yourself, both physically and emotionally.
• Whatever you decide to do, think about who can give you support and the kind of support you need.
• Trust yourself to make a decision that is right for you.

Some other things to consider

• A pregnancy options counsellor can give you unbiased advice and support, and help you consider all of your options. Some of these services are free and all will respect your privacy. Call 1800 MyOptions or visit their website for more information.
• Regardless of your decision about your unplanned pregnancy, you will soon need to make some practical arrangements.

What are your options?

Not every unplanned pregnancy is an unwanted pregnancy. When making a decision it is important to consider all of your options.

Pregnancy care

If you decide to continue with your pregnancy, speak with your local doctor (GP) about your pregnancy care options. Your GP can also talk with you about any concerns you have about your pregnancy and arrange any medical tests you need.

There may also be emotional and financial supports available to you. A Social Worker or Pregnancy Options Counsellor may be able give you more information about these.

Remember

There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to decide, no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ combination of things you can do to help you get there. Whatever you decide, and however you arrive at that decision, it is ‘right’ as long as it works for you.

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